Yesterday I wrote about “Trying to change others vs. changing yourself,” while today I am reminded of “Choosing my battles vs. Choosing not to battle.” Seems like there’s a little trend of back-to-the-basics going on.
It is so easy to forget the simplistic yet ever so important lessons in life and sometime we just have to go back to the basics!
Last night I found myself in a little battle with my son. We just bought him a new sleeping bag for an upcoming camping trip and of course, he wanted to sleep in it, in our new tent, inside our home. No, was the first reply that instinctively came to mind, so that was naturally my reply. He tried to bargain with me and asked if he could sleep in his sleeping bag with no tent. Again, a “No” reply. After a moment, I thought about it and asked myself, “What’s the harm?” My son is a child and is simply asking what any child would. So we negotiated and I let me sleep in his bed, in his sleeping bag.
I want my son’s memories of his childhood to be full of adventurous, fun-filled memories!
This morning, again, a little struggle of the wills. My son wanted to wear his new shirt today. I didn’t want him to because he goes to his dad’s this weekend, and usually never returns home with the same clothes. I was insistent that he change but again was reminded about childhood memories. (I was always excited to wear my new clothes as a child, and mine usually were put on as soon as I got home from the store!) We came to an agreement, that he would be responsible to return them home from his dad’s place, and that no new clothes would be bought until they came home. (A fair agreement if you ask me. I cannot be responsible to buy clothes for one child at two homes.)
It all really came down to control. I have told my son, and oh does he remind me, that I cannot control him, only myself. Telling him those words has been one of the best things ever, and he is not afraid to remind me!
It’s been quite the journey learning to control myself, and not trying to control him, but man is it ever worth it! The quality of our relationship has never been better! To love is to allow freedom!